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Introduction: The Power of Speaking Your Truth
One of the most important lessons I share with clients, friends, and even strangers is the value of honesty—speaking your truth. When someone crosses your boundaries, it is essential to voice how you feel. Many of us hesitate because we fear the other person’s reaction. Will they get angry? Will they dislike us?
But ask yourself: Whose problem is it if someone reacts poorly to your truth—yours or theirs?
Neglecting your voice to avoid conflict often prevents healing through self-expression, leading to self-abandonment. This blog will explore how expressing your truth can heal not just emotional wounds but physical ones, too. It’s time to let go, embrace acceptance, and reclaim your power.
Chapter 1: Boundaries Are the Foundation of Healing
Boundaries are not walls—they are bridges to self-respect and mutual understanding. Consider a personal example:
I was in a relationship with a woman who struggled to set boundaries. She rarely said what she felt or thought. This created tension between us because I would sometimes intentionally push her buttons—not to hurt her but to encourage her to speak up.
When she finally expressed her feelings, it was like a dam breaking. She started to communicate not just with me but with others in her life. Instead of carrying resentment and letting it build, she began to set boundaries and respect herself.
Lesson: When you express your boundaries, you teach others how to treat you. This practice fosters healthier relationships and inner peace.
Chapter 2: The Energetic Cost of Silence
Suppressing your truth doesn’t just impact your emotional well-being—it can affect your physical health, particularly the throat chakra.
When you swallow your words, you swallow energy. Over time, this creates blockages that can manifest as physical symptoms:
• Persistent throat tightness or the sensation of something stuck.
• Hair loss, hormonal imbalances, or other issues linked to unprocessed energy.
• Chronic discomfort in the neck, shoulders, or jaw.
By expressing your feelings—through words or writing—you release this trapped energy, allowing your body and mind to heal.
Chapter 3: Gossip and the Harm It Causes
Gossiping is another way we misuse our voice. Speaking negatively about others often stems from ego or unresolved emotions. It may seem harmless, but gossip hurts the gossiper the most.
As Buddha taught:
• If asked about someone, speak only of their good qualities.
• If tempted to say something bad, refrain—it does no good.
• If no one asks, keep silent.
Redirect that energy inward. Focus on your truth and let go of the need to judge others.
Chapter 4: Being Honest About Your Feelings
Honesty is a cornerstone of healing. If someone asks how you’re feeling, and you’re not okay, it’s fine to say so. You don’t have to elaborate, but honesty prevents you from masking your truth. For example:
• Instead of saying, “I’m fine,” try, “I’m not great, but I don’t want to talk about it right now.”
This small shift helps you stay authentic while protecting your boundaries.
Chapter 5: Writing as a Tool for Letting Go
Writing letters is one of the most powerful ways to process and release emotions. Here’s how you can do it:
Dear [Name/Mother/Father], I encourage you to get straight to the point. Don’t dwell on everything else—focus on writing down all the things you’ve been holding onto. This is your way of acknowledging and accepting what happened in the past so you can finally let go and allow yourself to grow. You might remember when you were [specific age], and [describe the incident: they hit you/saw them cheating/made you keep silent]. This made you feel [describe your emotions: scared, unloved, angry, confused, etc.]. When you think about it now, you might feel [current emotions: sadness, frustration, anger, or perhaps a desire to understand]. Sometimes, you try to make sense of their actions. Maybe they acted that way because they thought it was the best thing for you, or maybe they were trying to protect you in their own way. But no matter the reason, it caused pain. It hurt deeply and left scars you’ve carried for far too long. Now, you can choose to forgive—not because you are excusing what happened, but because holding onto this pain is no longer serving you. You deserve the freedom to move forward. You may even wonder who hurt them in the same way they hurt you. Often, unhealed pain passes down through generations. Today, you have the power to break that chain. If anger comes up while you’re writing, write: “I am angry right now.” If you feel hatred, write: “I feel hatred in this moment.” If sadness rises and tears flow, write: “I am sad, and I am crying.” Whatever you feel, allow yourself to write it down—every raw, unfiltered thought and emotion. There may be moments when this feels overwhelming, and you might want to walk away. But don’t. You’ve avoided these feelings for long enough. Writing them down is your way of facing them and finally letting them go. Much love, [Your Name]
FAQs About Writing a Letter for Letting Go
1. How long should my letter be?
Write as much as you need—don’t limit yourself. Keep writing without pausing to take breaks or reflect on whether to continue. The process works best when you allow your thoughts and emotions to flow freely without interruption. Stopping mid-way can disrupt the energy release. Write until you feel like you’ve expressed everything that needs to come out.
2. What if I feel worse after writing it?
It’s normal to feel worse initially. The act of writing can bring up buried emotions, causing you to shake, feel nauseous, or become overwhelmed with memories. This is part of the process. These feelings mean the emotions you’ve been holding onto are surfacing to be released.
Once you’ve completed the process and truly let go, you should feel a sense of calm and relief. Allow yourself time to sit with the emotions after writing; they will pass as you move through the ritual of release.
3. Do I have to burn the letter, or are there other ways to let go?
Yes, burning the letter is essential. Writing with pen and paper channels the energy from your subconscious mind, through your arm, into the pen, and finally onto the paper. By burning the letter, you symbolically release this energy.
How to burn the letter properly:
• Use a safe pot or bowl.
• Let the ashes cool down completely.
• Collect the ashes in an envelope or plastic bag.
• Release the ashes into moving water. For the sea, do so from a pier, bridge, or boat. For a river, ensure the stream has already passed your house before releasing from a bridge, pier, or shore. Avoid standing in the water, as the ashes may return to you.
• Dispose of the envelope or bag in a bin—do not bring it back home.
This process ensures that the energy you’ve released doesn’t return to you, allowing you to truly let go.
Personal Experience: The Weight of Energy
Several years ago, I was in a motorbike accident. I was driving quite slowly, but I sustained severe injuries. The accident happened at night while I was on my way back with a friend. She only had a minor scratch, but I was badly injured.
My entire left side was significantly damaged. The skin on my shoulder was gone, my knee looked horrific, and I could see inside my left ankle. The skin and flesh on my foot were stripped away.
My first instinct was to ride to a 7-Eleven, where I bought saline to clean the wounds. Due to the adrenaline, I didn’t feel any pain at that moment and thought I had done a good job cleaning up. But the next day, the pain hit me like a wave. It was massive. I felt nauseous and wanted to vomit every time I lowered my left leg from the bed. I tried to walk, but the pain intensified.
I ended up in a private clinic, where the doctor told me it could take 6-9 months before I could walk properly again, and two months before my skin would recover. My foot sole had turned completely black from internal bleeding. And so, the healing journey began.
I kept asking myself, why my left side? The left side represents feminine energy and is connected to unresolved emotions or experiences (trauma), involving a man or men. I searched for answers: Was it my father? No, it didn’t feel like that. Was it my friend who had taken his own life? No. Was it my cousin who had died at a young age from cancer? Again, no.
Then the answer came: “Yourself.”
I was stunned. “Myself? Why myself?”
I began asking myself deeper questions:
• Why do I feel sadness about myself?
• Why do I experience fear about myself?
• Why do I feel guilt to myself?
• Why do I believe my past will dictate my present and future?
And then the name came to me: Dijana.
I broke down in tears. I realized I hadn’t completely let go of my sister’s death. I was still stuck in the past. Despite all the times I told myself I didn’t feel guilty anymore, my subconscious mind wasn’t registering it. It was still holding on to that guilt.
All problems affecting my skin were tied to myself.
All problems in my body reflected my relationships with others.
Writing the Letter
That realization led me to write a letter to myself. I wrote it as though I were writing to a dear friend, someone I wanted to encourage to move forward. It went something like this:
Dear David, There you are. Fifteen years have passed since the sudden and unexpected death of your dear sister. You and she had an extraordinary relationship—like two peas in a pod, as many people described. Her sudden death shook you in ways you never imagined. Even now, fifteen years later, you feel guilty for her death, even though there was nothing you could have done to prevent it. You know this, yet the guilt lingers. You’re still sad, and you still feel fear every time the phone rings, worried it might bring unpleasant news. But you know, just as anyone does, that the past is not a guarantee of the future. The past is simply a teacher, one meant to make you stronger as you continue forward. (Now, writing this years later, I feel at peace. But back then, I cried and cried, pouring all those emotions into the letter as they came to the surface.) With love, David.
The Power of Release
I didn’t read the letter after writing it. You shouldn’t read yours either. I burned it in a pot and went to sleep.
Usually, when I woke up in the morning, the pain in my leg was unbearable as soon as I lowered it from the bed. It was so intense that I felt like I might pass out each time. But the morning after I burned the letter, something was different. I lowered my leg, and there was no pain.
I was stunned. I lifted my leg back up and lowered it again—still no pain. When I tried to stand, it was easier. There was still some discomfort, but nothing compared to the agony of the days before.
Later that day, I went back to the clinic to have my wounds cleaned. The doctor was surprised to see me walking—still with some pain, but much better than before.
From that point on, my recovery accelerated. Within four to five weeks, my skin had healed, and within a month, I was walking normally again.
Conclusion
This experience taught me how deeply energy can weigh on us all. When we hold onto guilt, sadness, fear, or any unresolved emotion, it doesn’t just affect our
minds—it manifests in our bodies.
By facing these emotions, writing them down, and letting them go, we can release that weight and create space for healing. This process transformed my recovery and showed me the true power of accepting and letting go.
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